New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd wrote an op-ed piece a couple of days ago about the shenanigans going on at Landon, an elite private high school in Maryland. Apparently a certain group of boys would “draft” freshman girls, bring them to parties, try to have sex with them, and pay each other money based on their results. Quote:
One team was called “The Southside Slampigs,” and one boy dubbed his team with crude street slang for drug-addicted prostitutes.
The young woman who was the “top pick” was described by one of the boys in a team profile he put up online as “sweet, outgoing, friendly, willing to get down and dirty and [expletive] party. Coming in at 90 pounds, 5’2 and a bra size 34d.” She would be a special asset to the team, he noted, because her mother “is quite the cougar herself.”
Dowd then goes on to call into question Landon’s mission statement of building men with character and other exemplary qualities, drawing a tenuous connection between these 9th graders and the UVA lacrosse player that killed his girlfriend a few months ago on campus (he was an ex-student of the high school).
However reprehensible this behavior may be, there is no need to be sanctimonious. I don’t know where Maureen went to school, but teenage boys trying to get teenage girls to sleep with them is not shocking in the least (One wonders if she has seen American Pie or any of the other high school movies or TV shows of the past 20 years or so). Furthermore, guys that treat women like crap and seems to have no qualms about it are a dime a dozen. Making a comparison between that type of behavior and murder is asinine.
Anyone who has ever been in a male locker room most likely has heard boasts of sexual conquest and overly sexual descriptions of girls. It’s as routine as chatter about sports. In fact, had the boys been wiser and not let some chick find out about their secret group, then the girls would have just been doing what every other woman does on a regular basis. That is going out and dating men, some good some bad.
Eventually the girls would realize this particular group of boys were no good and they would stop dating them. How is this different from any other woman of any age, dating men anywhere in the United States? You live and you learn. Some men are good, some are bad. How do you expect to protect 9th grade girls from devious 9th grade boys? They have to learn for themselves. It’s called life.
In some ways this fantasy team would have taught the girls a vital lesson, that they should pay attention to who they hang out with and that every boy that claims he loves her is not telling the truth. Perhaps if Natalee Holloway and Stephany Flores had been “drafted” and seen the evil character of some men, they may have noticed Joran van der Sloot was a bad apple, and they wouldn’t have hung out with him, and they’d still be alive. In a way these Landon boys could have saved some lives. Now they will never get the chance.
Their Dangerous Swagger [NY Times]